Wounds are deep-seated distortions at different levels and different times that happen to people and for some; they leave a life-lasting impression on them. Injuries are almost the same thing, the only difference is that it is not as deep as Wounds. Scars are the signs that one was wounded or injured.
The very first thing that comes to people’s mind when they hear one is injured or wounded is to tell them to heal, and while this move could be very dangerous to the affected person. You ask how? The person might not have even accepted or know he or she is injured, or the person is living in denial of what he or she is going through. So the very first thing to do when you are injured or wounded is to accept that you are injured. Don’t try to waive the impact the wound had on you, accept that it broke you, accept that it made you feel useless and incapable of saving yourself. Acceptance is the first step to attaining wholeness, pretending that it did not happen is you lying to yourself.
After accepting that you are injured or wounded, you need to forgive yourself. It is not your fault, if it was your fault, it is even much more reason for you to forgive yourself. Don’t hold back your ability to move ahead by holding onto a sentimental position of hurt. You have to forgive yourself and move on. I do not say this as one that is oblivious to how painful wounds and injuries can be, but you can forgive yourself and move! Holding onto the pain can cause further hurts and affect your perspective towards life and also cause you to inflict wounds on another person. Forgive yourself!
Heal! Let me start by correcting a notion, time doesn’t heal wounds, what you do with time and in time heals wounds. If practical steps are not taken towards healing, you won’t heal, it might be buried for a while, but it is still there and it might resurface if you come across a trigger. What do you need to do to heal? The process started when you accepted that you are wounded and you forgave yourself, what happens now is continual of the process and this involves loving yourself, forgiving the other party, if there was, creating new memories, and not isolating yourself. Meditation and self-care are paramount at this point, not selfishness but carefully making sure you are fine at all times.
Finally, you need to see those scars as trophies and catalogues of experiences that have made you stronger, though you were broken at the point of the wound, you decided to rise above it. Don’t see them as reminders, see them as a source of strength in trying times.
You have got you, you are stronger than you can imagine.
Remember, Accept, Forgive, heal, then see your scars as trophies from conquests and not scars.
